In recent years, the word “tolerance” has come to be a positive word in our culture…not showing discrimination particularly towards another person’s race, etc.

I see the world differently than most… So, when I hear the word tolerate, I cringe a bit inside.

How many of us want to hear from our best friend over a cup of tea, “I tolerate you.” ?  Or from our spouse, “over the years, you were tolerated.” ?  OUCH!  That doesn’t give me a warm, fuzzy, loving feeling.  How about you??

No, what we long for is to fall in love with life itself… as humans, we want to be understood, accepted, embraced, cheered on for our efforts…  And what about our kids??

Even the most profoundly injured among us can sense quite clearly the difference.  We all know when we are simply being tolerated.

I know it’s difficult, especially on those days when dishes get piled, the temperature is rising, and your kiddo seems to be in sensory overload…  That’s when I stand at a crossroads as a a parent:  Do I plow ahead?  Or do I take a deep breathe, say a quick prayer, and meet my child right where he is at, and show him delight, loving acceptance, comfort?  I hope I choose the latter.  For when I have in the past, I have found myself reminding us both of who he really is…”you are strong and brave,” “you’ll get past this,” “it’s ok to feel frazzled, let’s just calm down and rest a bit… You are ok.”

Don’t our children deserve so much more than to be tolerated?

About teezmom

Bio: Dawn Segawa has worn many hats in life… classical and jazz flutist, life coach, artist, Cranio-Sacral specialist, teacher, friend, and most importantly mom, wife, and beloved daughter of the Most High.
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2 Responses to Tolerance

  1. Reverend Doctor Peter G. St. Don says:

    I agree. Rather than saying, “I tolerate you, it’s much healthier to say, “I love you.” And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.” (I Corinthians 13:13).

  2. Bernadette says:

    I love this ,it so nails down how special needs children are treated and made to feel .The sad thing is “who is normal” ? So who are we to take this stand with children .Its not what our special needs children cant do ,for me its how great they are ,how strong we can help them be ,how we can help them be happy ,with our Love for them .
    I wish every parent felt like this and empowered their children with their love for them .

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