1-What you see, is what you get.
2-A man is more likely to follow “rules of engagement,” firing a warning shot across the bow (of a boat,) rather than pulling a concealed dagger.
3-A man will take “It is, what it is” approach, rather than obsessively worrying about decisions just made, or decisions about to be made in the future… Just deal with what is.
4-A man may take more time to think through commitments, so he is more willing to stick with them.
5-Yes, means yes. No, means no. Clear and simple.
6-When my man is tired at the end of a day, and I’m sure my voice must sounds like Charlie Brown’s teacher, “Hwah, hwah, hwah, hwah, blah, blah, blah, blah…” he still TRIES to listen.
7-A man values a warm, breathing body next to him at night, more than wrinkle cream, fashion statements, or the latest gossip.
8-A man gets that there are more ways to communicate and show love besides talking… food, acts of service, defending the tribe, giving a hug, writing notes, playing a song…
9-A man understands a chain-of-command, even when the One above him is God, and those below to protect, defend and serve are his wife, kids, and family dog.
10-Although some men take a hammer and duck-tape approach, a smart man gets the right tool for the job at hand.
11-A man has the ability to show consideration, simply by opening a door a allowing others to walk through first. (Don’t let the anger of feminism fool you on this one!)
12-A healthy man will tolerate the need to have things “clean and organized” and pitch in when the “heavy” stuff needs done.
13-When she is exhausted, sleep deprived and falling into a puddle of tears, he will stand strong, unwavering, look her in the eye and say “It’s ok.”
14-A man’s perspective may be, “in light of eternity, and all that matters most, are the troubles of this day worth fretting over?”
15-An honest man will show up for work, day in and day out, day in and day out… without this we could sink terribly into debt, be forced to take state services, and/or permanently live with extended family.
16-A gentleman believes in ironing his own shirt the night before services, meetings and special occasions. (Ok, maybe this one is just my husband.) 😉
17-Our little boy crosses his legs, just like his Daddy.
18-A man confident in himself, allows others to succeed and fully be themselves (men or women,) without thinking any less of himself.
19-A godly man believes in making the world a better place for us having been here (no matter how big or small our “world” of impact.)
20-The twentieth reason why I love a good man? You stay. For this, I am eternally grateful.
When I was a little girl, I could not fathom writing such a list as this, for the man I grew up with was none of these things. Thanks be to God, my Abba, my true Papa for healing me: body, mind, heart and soul; then surrounding my life with truly good men!!
-teezmom & ehmz-wife